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to Eustress Yourself. OMG! You already know how!
Internal links: (Help
Hunger and Help Children)
have a plan first, a process for healing from all the
links: (Help Hunger
and Help Children) (Healing
Negative images) (Who I Am)
physical, mental. emotional and spiritual
(metaphysical). Search out the plan
that will work for you. Look everywhere.
Look under your car. Just seeing if
you're really reading this. Try all the best. I,
ahem, happen to have one with four
variations on this very website... ideas about
healing negative images, for
example, to get you started thinking about the whole
healing thing. Bottom
It's do-able, (eustress) but you gotta clean the
slate! What does that mean?
Here's what you gotta
do! You gotta get rid of: (You
ready? Take a deep breath!)
feelings of...irritation, grudge, gripes, resentments,
sour grapes, thoughts of lack, loss, self-pity,
uselessness, gloom and doom, and urges to strike
out, withdraw, run away, give up,
whew! In other words, cut the crap and find a
get into a more positive state
before you even try to enhance it! You
aren't going to become Shirley Sunshine or Rod
straight from the Beast that ate Montana. Each
and every one of the aforementioned attitudes
needs a positive substitute. Without a
replacement they will not go away. Bottom
Your brain will act like a vacuum without
substituting something for EACH, and
you will go right back to feeling like a sucky doodoo-head!
3. SO, for...irritation,
grudge, gripes, resentments and sour grapes you're
do the opposite of what you think I'm gonna say.
You are going to list them and name
and claim them and wallow in them, for about fifteen
minutes. They done you dirt.
It ain't fair, it ain't nice. It's crappy and
and a pox on them all. Cry. Now, you gonna let
them win twice or what? They ruined your day
once, twice, how many?. You gonna let
them ruin EVERY day? Then stop right here. I
can't help you. You want to be miserable,
go ahead. Otherwise you need to do the next
crazy thing. Give to them. You heard me.
Pray for them. Not a prayer? Visualize
them having positive things happen. YES! And no,
I am not crazy! If they are available give them a
gift, a trinket, whatever. Yes, hand it to them.
Now do I have to say I am not talking about the guy
who mugged you and stole your car?
Do not get anywhere near a perp. If the best you
can do is see them sitting doing some
harmless thing like watching tv, that will work.
The purpose is to get the evil buzz they
left in your head out of there. If you can't
shake it, go on to my page on healing negative
images that haunt you. If you still can't
get rid of the build up, get some help,
For thoughts of lack and loss, you are climbing out
one step at a time. Gratitude lists
don't work when you are greiving. Don't deny the
pain, allow yourself to share it.
That is the biggest trick to healing you could ever
learn. You can get through just
about anything together. Together with whom?
Everybody. Tell the bus driver, tell
your grandmother. Tell your hairdresser, your
barber, your softball coach, don't stop
until somebody agrees with you and says they've have
been there, are there. Until two say
that, three say that, until a dozen say that.
Eventually it won't feel as bad. You'll
Then you can do your gratitude lists and your time out
The self-pity and uselessness is easy. You march
right down to the local foodbank
and volunteer. You start reading for the blind,
visiting sick kids in the hospital. The
second you decide to spend one minute helping others
is the very minute you will turn the tide
on how you feel about what you have or have not done
in this world. You don't have to
join the Peace Corps and spend five years in some far
away land helping build schools.
Do the research. Who needsd what and what can
you do? How much time can you give?
Can you at least stop sending negative thoughts of
pity to those sduffering and think of
them as somehow managing to improve things?
That's a start.
And so hopefully, having made strides or at least aken
some steps toward dumping the
excess of negativity, you can now begin to also focus
Here are just a few tiny ideas for the many, many many
and foremost, don't take the fool's way out by trying
a drug that will take you there. Or if you have,
let dropping that be your first step.
You didn't come on this planet to avoid being alive
and aware while you're here and
YOU KNOW IT! Bottom
Line: It ruins the game and you
don't get any
points trying to run away from the life you decided
to come into. So...
For physical: get moving...from least to
most: chair aerobics,
chair dancing, stretching, breathing exercises,
walking around the house
as an exercise, dancing around the house, lifting cat
food cans, lifting soup
cans, 1 lb. hand weights up to really big barbells and
huge gym equipment
things, and recreation with friends. Do whatever
you know you love to do
and could be doing, age and health appropriate. Bottom
Line: Do something
physical everyday and
notice the positive changes. Yes, Virginia,
it will change!
mental: this is easy, easy--learn, learn.
learn! You know what you
want to learn, learn it! You know what is safe
to learn, fun to learn, worth
learning but not too hard to learn, what would pay off
for you to learn,
what would help people around you if you learned it,
what you have always
thought of learning. So start.
Bottom line: Let curiosity in, man,
and see your life
emotional: this is so easy also, too, although
you won't believe me--
connect, connect, connect. What? You
thought you could do this if you only
found the one right partner? OMG!
Stop. Look at the happy people, the really
happy people. They have a lot of buddies,
friend! We fall in love, yes, but
that is only the beginning. We have come onto
this planet to experience
each other in physical form in a thousand different
ways. In other words,
"WE" is the big reason WE are here. We came to have
the exerience of each
other in three dimensions as lovers, yes, and as
friends, team mates, co-workers,
co-worshipers, co-home owners, co-apartment dwellers,
co-dog walkers, co-parents,
co-shoppers, co-students, co-musicians, co-traverlers
and co-travelers in the
broadest sense across all lines of interest. So when you
is nothing more than the acknowledgment that you came
here to be with...
whomever for whatever.
Bottom line: You really connect (that's
with enough people and I guarantee your feelings will
get more positive.
spiritual: realize that spiritual
means spirit-filled, you know,
like cosmic energy type of thing, like the force being
with you. The universe
is intentional, has motivation. Get with the
intention. Line up with alignment.
Rap with the rhythm. Go with the flow.
Move with the motion, do the devotion.
Sing with the stars. Strum the guitars.
Let the vibrations have the migrations to
the highest vibrations of all. Make the call.
Have a ball. You know it, y'all. You
gotta acknowlege that Source is the college and
attendance is free so get your degree.
Can't express it straight because words don't rate
when you try to call the all-in-all
a name, it's a game. So find your fame by not
being lame when it's time to pray
take your ego away and let the universe give you the
verse and release the worst.
Declare you're there where each thought is a stair
that will take you in air to
a state of fate that really rates and tune each day in
such a way that no one or
nothing can legislate a downword slide or a punky ride
'cause the Source is the Force
that's become your choice. Now your have a voice to
speak your soul's pleasure and
build a treasure of the deepest delight with what's
totally right. Bottom
Get with the plan, Stan.
Note: May total eustress be
yours every day!