Would you like to drastically reduce the
impact of the bad stuff playing in your head?
Would you like to? You can do exactly that,
but you have to know WHAT TO DO AND
HOW TO DO IT! Here are three nationally
recognized techniques to get rid of bad mind
movies.The basic setup for all
three techniques is: Sit comfortably in a quiet spot,
away from all distractions.
You know you should seek
professional help first, right?
deadly images locked inside our heads...We all face tragedy.
Some of us more than others.
But first things first....To all our Service
Men and Women.....
Navy Navy Seals
Air Force Air Force
Corp Coast Guard Coast Guard
YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU!
IF YOU ARE A WOUNDED WARRIOR,
IF YOU HAVE SERVED IN OUR ARMED FORCES
AND ARE DEALING WITH STUFF, PLEASE,
PLEASE AND NOT SO PRETTY PLEASE
TELL THE SERVICE PEOPLE. NONE OF YOUR BUDDIES, NEITHER
THE ONES THAT
CAME HOME AND ESPECIALLY THE ONES THAT DIDN'T, WOULD WANT
SUFFER, ANY MORE THAN YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO SUFFER.
ALL WHO SERVE IS RESPECT FOR THE LIVING AS WELL AS THE
FALLEN. WHEN YOU
RESPECT ONE, YOU RESPECT ALL. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU
WANT FOR ALL, PEACE
OF MIND. YOU KNOW IT. GIVE IT TO THE ONE. WHEN
YOU HEAL YOURSELF YOU
HONOR ALL WHO SERVE. TELL THEM YOU ARE WILLING TO
And now back to the rest of us, some of whom have suffered
pretty much. Most of the time
emotional pain is created and magnified terribly by the
image(s) playing in our brains. We can't
get rid of them. How many times have you heard someone
say, "I can still
(whatever) happening. It 's ghastly and I'll never be
able to not think of it." They feel like the movie
is chained in their brain's memory banks. The content
is the physical moments they went through it,
or as they witnessed
it, or even as they got a message and found out"it"
had happened. You see,
"It" can really do bad damage to us, even if we only witness
"it" on TV or just see "it" in a movie.
That's why we protect our children. Brains aren't
fully formed until about 18. Tragedy can
seriously endanger a child's healthy development by exposing
them to a flood of negative events.
WE can be seriously impaired, too, as adults. What to
A note about
this: One, the damages of a traumatic experience and
recovery from it are
VERY personal and individualized. Some people are
"wired" to withstand trauma that
would send someone else to a psych ward.Others not so
much. Don't assume you "ought to"
be handling your trauma like you were US Airways Pilot "Sully"
Sullenberger, landing your plane
on the Hudson. Whatever your reaction is, that's what you have
to deal with. *You should always consider seeking
professional help first before utilizing these online techniques.
First Technique: The first technique I
call, "Remaking Your Own Movie!" See yourself
in your own movie theater. The film that is playing is the
movie that bothers you. But this
time you are going to watch it from a particular seat and you can
control the size of what you
see by where you sit.
1. Move back in the theater until you feel more relaxed
because the image is small
enough. Maybe you will have to move so far back that the
screen is no bigger than
a postage stamp. You can. It's your theater. If sitting in the
audience, even in the back,
is still too close, go up in the projection booth. If that is
still too close, visualize yourself
standing outside the wall of the theater looking in at your self
sitting there watching the film.
The bottom line is getting your brain to accept the reduction of the
You may have to consciously move farther back in
this theater in your mind for awhile until the
picture is small enough, especially at the beginning.
2. Now start to run the movie.
Start it just before the bad stuff happens. Sound with that?
Turn the volume right down to where it doesn't bother you. the
controls are right there at
your side. Try to run the movie in color.
Stop it right after the bad stuff.
Now you have two choices.
First choice: You can
continue to run the film over and over again, each time looking to
see it, but now in black and white, decreasing the picture and sound
until what is playing
bothers you much less. Come back in your mind and do that
again. The brain, indeed,
will begin to reprogram the original "film" with the one you
are now showing, very tiny with
almost no sound. That's because in some ways the brain is
a computer that you manage.
It will do what you program it to do. The trick is knowing
how to do it. You are using images
to overide other, negatively loaded, images. Depending upon the
severity of the trauma
and your built in, your "wired," response to that trauma, it will take as many
times as it takes to
render the "movie" impotent.
Instead of running it over and over forwards and reducing
it, you will do something differently. As before, start
the film just before the
awful stuff started and end it when it's over. But now,
instead of runnng it over
and over, you will run it once forward, then RUN IT BACKWARDS, in
black and white
if you can and STOP IT AT THE BEGINNING. Every
time the imagery pops into your
head keep running it backwards and stopping it at the beginning.
I was in a car
accident and this one worked for me.
Remember, pain comes in waves that will
begin tosubside. Like the tide, the waves
ome in and out, gradually receding. They
begin to occur
less frequently, less intensely,
and don't last as long. Eventually, and especially if
you use these techneques, you may
begin notice this happening more quickly.
As they say
somewhere, "keep working" (on this,) you're worth it!
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Second Technique: This technique is adapted from a book called Urban
Shaman written by Serge Kahili King, a psychologist who works, or
did, in L.A. and Hawaii. He offers an
incredible array of techniques for improving your perspective
on life. This particular
technique is often used for physical events that have happened to you
and have shaken you up,
but it can be used effectively for all emotional pain. After you
are comfortable, and if you can stand it,
visualize the pertinent events leading up to and including the
event. BUT AFTER
run the events in your mind to turn out differently!
Now, nothing bad happens!
The car just misses you. You just miss the other car. The knife just
misses your finger. Even
If you were not present and it concerns someone you care about, my bet
is you have imaged
the events leading up to and including the fateful action. Over
and over and over again until you
replace the automatic presentation with the new image. Now
imagine the events that lead up
to the eventand the eventMISSES!
* I know, it sounds like you are trying to convince
yourself it didn't happen. This point is extremely
important, you are only scrambling
the image, not the logic that knows the truth.
You are not going to suddenly forget what
happened. No, in effect, you are simply acknowledging that
this haunting image is not doing
you any good. Believe me, if you need to mourn, you will mourn.
*You may feel very bitter about what happened. You can't call
back a loved one or a part of
yourself lost, or a
cherished possession now gone. What you are doing in this work,
is hard work, is rebalancing your emotions so that you can function.
You don't want the event
to win twice!
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Third Technique: The setup for
this, since it involves a deeper meditation is more
important. Sit back (or
lie down) and if sitting take everything off your lap and rest arms
feet comfortably so as to not hamper your body's circulation.
Take a deep breath,
gently, hold for a moment and gently and slowly exhale. Again.
Take a deep breath,
gently, hold for a moment and slowly exhale. Now close your
eyes, squint tightly and
release, leaving your eyes closed. Again, squint tightly
and release, keeping your eyes
closed.As you keep your eyes closed, tense tightly, then release, all
the muscles in your
body. Notice your breathing. Breathe slowly. It isn't
necessary to grab great gulps of air.
Just slow down your breathing. Notice that your breathing is
beginning to become deeper
and more gentle. Keep doing this until you are convinced you are
relaxed. Now...the third technique: Let your mind
wander into a beautiful stream...a waterfall cascading into a lovely
in turn flowing down a gentle but powerful stream...Look at the lovely
blue sky, the clouds
...See the wild flowers at the sides of the pool. The air is
soft and fresh, the smells are wonderful.
Detail this beautiful scene as fully as you can. Now leave the
cascading falls behind you, as
you move slowly but gently down the stream, just like the song...Allow
yourself to be carried
along. You need do nothing, just move without effort down the
stream. Know that as you move
down this stream, so you allow yourself to move past pain and into
the stream of life flowing
beyond...Do not translate this! Keep it as a
symbol, a metaphor. Let yourself drift as long as
you are comfortable and fully engaged in this process. If you fall
asleep, that's fine. You can do
this at night to fall asleep. If not...Take a moment to
resurface ...Let your mind come back to the
present. Begin to move the fingers of your hands, your feet
and legs, hands and arms. Open
your eyes. Open! [The more days you do this, the
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